Argument .... Options

[asianstreak]

Specifically, if one person has a different opinion and is even annoyed but the other explains how s/he feels and they come to understand where the other person is coming from, through talking and showing affection. Is that an 'argument' or is that just a natural part of a relationship?

Most of us would say Argument is normal to anybody..but to have a constant argument with your spouse is not fun at all,sometimes it is so annoying.But we can't control not to have an argument it just pop without any reason or maybe bec.male and female do not really understand each other.Some would say it adds spice to marriage and sometimes it leads to divorce.But we can't help to disagree with our spouse ..I think its an instinct or a human nature... I think the only solution to save the relationship is ..no matter how you disagree in a certain topic don't take it seriously and just walk away or better get something that can distract attention to both of you.

My husband and I argue in different stuff.He is very argumentative (he admitts that) and I am too sometimes esp.if I have my PMS.It annoys both of us but we do not fight.I just leave him alone and I do my own thing...we both knows we are both stubborn but we dont let pride torn our feeling.I let it go and move on and so he is.Since we've been together we never had huge fight,no matter how upset we are we really avoid to hurt each others feelings,we watch our words..and if sometimes it slipt..one would recognize it and right away one of us will apologies.

I know some couple do not like to tell everybody that they argue,but I do not think that couple like this do exist.Bec.logically even siblings fights when if we think about it they belong to one genes and one womb?

My husband often wish that we should not argue..and I laugh at him ang I answered "Isn't it boring if we agree all the time? or I agree with you all the time even if I do not like it?" hey your a man and I'm a woman...sometimes argument exist bec.of honesty...what is unfortunate is..you dont understand the feeling thats why we argue...

what bout some couple here ...for wives and husband out there...do you guys argue too?

This post has been edited by asianstreak: Jul 27 2010, 03:10 AM

[Gie88]

Not to contradict you..

I'm just wondering how those poor people( who has money but like to save their money for a living) live without fridge nor having a new brand of fridge when they come back home tired and thirsty..

Mel, it's their life. If they choose to be that way, then that's how they should live. My Aunt used to tell her kids while eating, "clean your plate! Your father works so hard just to get your meal. Think of all the people who don't eat." So one time I told her, "Well, you should get a job so your husband is not killing himself working while you're there sitting the whole day worrying about your nails." If you don't work, you should suffer. She never experienced working in her whole lifetime. Yet she keep telling people how to save money, and not to blah blah..

You know what I've learned: We shouldn't be feeling sad about people cause we don't really know what they've been through. If we look at these people that we call "Poor," it's our way of thinking. But if you dig deeper, for them it's nothing because it's how they live. Remember where we came from. In the Philippines I used to think that my life was OK, until I came over here in the US. We have to own cars, Cellphone, Computers, we have to have our own because it's just the way it is here in the US. When I came home last year I saw kids dealing w/their everyday lives the way they were taught they should. They're fine. Just don't approach them and tell them what kind of life you have (so they won't feel bad about themselves, and start thinking that their life should be like yours too).

Just like Shone said, we work hard for it, why not spend it. It's our life. If you wanna share, then go ahead: It's our choice. It's just my point of view.

[melody]

Mel, it's their life. If they choose to be that way, then that's how they should live. My Aunt used to tell her kids while eating, "clean your plate! Your father works so hard just to get your meal. Think of all the people who don't eat." So one time I told her, "Well, you should get a job so your husband is not killing himself working while you're there sitting the whole day worrying about your nails." If you don't work, you should suffer. She never experienced working in her whole lifetime. Yet she keep telling people how to save money, and not to blah blah..

You know what I've learned: We shouldn't be feeling sad about people cause we don't really know what they've been through. If we look at these people that we call "Poor," it's our way of thinking. But if you dig deeper, for them it's nothing because it's how they live. Remember where we came from. In the Philippines I used to think that my life was OK, until I came over here in the US. We have to own cars, Cellphone, Computers, we have to have our own because it's just the way it is here in the US. When I came home last year I saw kids dealing w/their everyday lives the way they were taught they should. They're fine. Just don't approach them and tell them what kind of life you have (so they won't feel bad about themselves, and start thinking that their life should be like yours too).

Just like Shone said, we work hard for it, why not spend it. It's our life. If you wanna share, then go ahead: It's our choice. It's just my point of view.

I am aware of people act like that..i have seen many individuals on my travel in some parts of the countries..i have seen the difference..They act that way,they think that way,they manage their lives that way..It's their lives but i am in another way...just putting my observation which i think it's not sinful while we are here in forum...Of course we mind our own business but i hope you don't mind if i give my opinion.

This post has been edited by melody: Jul 29 2010, 06:27 PM

[asianstreak]

I am aware of people act like that..i have seen many individuals on my travel in some parts of the countries..i have seen the difference..They act that way,they think that way,they manage their lives that way..It's their lives but i am in another way...just putting my observation which i think it's not sinful while we are here in forum...Of course we mind our own business but i hope you don't mind if i give my opinion.

Being observant is a good thing ..you can learn from it.But my advice dont take it too seriously bec. every people in this whole wide world is different.And if you analyze each of them ,,trust me ..it will drive you to insanity.You can't change people bec.you feel bad for them...I better say ..you better change and learn not say about them.Anyway its their life,thats what they want in their life.If they like to live in a box and keep their millions ...so what??I wont put my nose in their life...anyway I dont like nossy people iether.I care for myself ,for my life,for my family and for my love one..... outside of that??? I do not care even if the whole world will doom.As long I know I did my part and I paid my dues.

This post has been edited by asianstreak: Jul 30 2010, 02:25 PM