I tried several times to join this site; I'm not sure what went wrong, but I would get an email that I had created an account, but I could never post anything. So I just read the forum all the time, until recently I wanted to comment so badly on what someone had posted, that I tried again and it worked.
My situation is I'm living in the states and dating a Filipina who is working in Canada. I am begining to feel a little hopeless on this whole situation because my girl is dragging her feet; she wants to finish her contract there before I apply for her visa. That is two more years away, and I've been looking at the time lines that some of you post and I'm seing a minimum of 14 months on a visa being approved. So I think I am going to be waiting another three to four years at least, and we've been together for over a year already. Trips to Canada are very very expensive; last time I spent over two thousand and I was trying to budget. I never wanted a long distance relationship, and I'm starting to feel like the biggest obstacle stopping us from getting married and living happily ever after is her. When I try to talk to her about it she gets very upset and cries, so I don't bring it up any more. She just recently applied for a tourist visa to come to the states, and I have no idea what her chances of getting approved are, but it would be great if she could come here.
Well, that was a bit more of an introduction than I had planned, but I'm wondering if some of you ever felt hopeless? But I'm assuming your girl was working with you on being together, and that seems like it would make all the difference in the world... Do any of you have any words of advice or encouragement?