Times have changed so much, we all became materialistic, all the influence of the industries made us believe, that it is important to "buy" and "give"
Valentines Day -Hallmark Greeting Cards
Fiance rings - De Beers
Our Santa Claus "idea"- Coca Cola Company
Mothers Day - also used by many Companies, i forgot now who started to propagate it.
I think it is very important to go back to the old values of courtship. Writng letters which express feelings. Writing letters with vows.
Yes, Flowers are nice and appreciated as well as small gifts, but to rate one's persons feelings by the amount of "givings" or the lack of it, is very wrong in my eyes.
Or i ask, who is more in love and devoted, the person who showers with small presents or the person who writes a beautiful letter or poem to you? ( NOT A "Googled" one, an own one !)
Who loves you more, the person who keep saying "I.L.U." every 5 minutes or the one actually showing it through his deeds and behavior ( Like making plans for the distant future, even when not so romantic in appearance)
I also think it is time for all of us to try to get away a little more from consumerism and rather spend our time together
, then i endless hours of work just to pay of the credit for all those useless things we "need" and buy.
Honestly, sometimes i wish i would be living 100 years ago without the feeling of being backwards because i do not have the latest techno gizmo. I am quite intelligent, but i hardly understood the time settings how to program my VCR to auto record TV shows, when DVD's came up. (i still have not bought a DVD recorder, enough is enough) Same with Cellphones...
I really believe we would have more Love and quality time, if we cut down on real necessary things to consume and why not starting it in courtship right away ? Back to LOVE, back to basic !