My ex, who is a Mexican national, lives just a few miles away. A couple of times a year she has to drop by for a signature or to have me look at her tax return, and she often brings us tamales as a courtesy. My wife politiely offers her some of the fish she is eating, from the carcass on the table, with at least one of the eyes gone, and the ex politely refuses. About the only edible they both have in common is "menudo," but only from a trusted restaurant, and they both tend to get sick after eating it.
Anyway, it is fairly obvious to both of them that the ex does not plan and my Pinay does not want her in our house more time than it takes to finish any business for which she came.
An irony of this civil relationship is that my wife early on insisted that she write and mail the monthly alimony check (which goes on till one of us goes to Paradise), and I've never understood her insistence on that. It might be because when I was late in paying one month early in our current marriage, the ex banged on our bedroom window, wanting to know where her monthly alimony was.
That's pretty inappropriate to bang the bedroom window, a phone call wouldn't do the trick?, geezzz this kind of behavior will really get on one's nerves, oh well some women really behave so weird. I have not meet my husband ex yet , but maybe when my step kids will eventually marry . From what I gather from their stories,( both my husband and the kids), the ex and my personality are totally opposite . Even though I haven't meet her personally, I will not agree to any invitation/request to visit our house. if she has business/personal dealings with my husband or the kids then they can set it somewhere else.