First and foremost, I would really like to thank all those who replied. I came back at the end of the day to find some 22 replies. Love to see how active and resourceful everybody is here.
Here is the most recent update:
I just got done with 7 hours straight chatting away w/the cam video thingy. Wow, we really discussed SO MUCH and there were some misunderstandings on my part that were cleared up. I found out that the connection on her end was horrible and she could only make out certain words and phrases. It was my total assumption that her English was a problem. I completely own my part in it. And I would like to give special Kudos to the gentleman who said the following on our list. Because it is so true:
"They are intelligent and amazing people, the bisayas know and are fluent in at least 3 languages ( Bisayan, Tagalog, and English )....We Americans should be ashamed of ourselves...I have lived in a border state all of my life, and I can only speak Spanish with a 4 yr old's ability, and I know just a handful of Bisayan words, and practically no Tagalog, after almost 3 yrs.... "
This is all a new learning experience for me, and for her. We focused alot on how to clear the air when there is a problem, concern or fear. For example I suggested that if and when she didn't understand something I was saying, she could just say, "Please explain" or "I'm not sure I understand" rather than just agreeing to be polite.
As far as me learning another language, I definitely want to learn some functional vocabulary. I suppose Tagalog is the most practical. And I have already copied many functional and romantic phrases to impress her.
She is an incredible woman. She is a real gem.
And in a very polite way, I offered that if she ever wanted to strengthen the English she already knows, particularly conversational English, I would be glad to hire a private English tutor, since the nearest English school in Butuan City is an hour bus ride for her. So I'm putting it out there, if anyone can suggest an English teacher willing to do some private sessions, and willing to travel in the Agusan Del Norte area, to please contact me.
One thing I grapple with that was suggested on this list, is that I don't visit her unless I am very serious, since this may embarass her in the eyes of her family, village, etc... Well, my intention is definitely to take the relationship seriously, if there is chemistry and compatability in person. I mean, there has to be some respectful way to court a woman without the potential of embarassing her. I do have spend time in person before I can become "serious". The last thing I want to do is hurt anybody, especially this beautiful soul. But this is new for both of us. Neither of us has dated outside our culture, religion, etc.... so our agreement is that I will visit with every good intention of it opening up into a committed relationship aka marriage, but that ultimately it will go according to God's will. If God decides we will be together, its going to happen. If not, at least we gave it a shot. I will attempt to explain the same thing to her family. I realize there may be some sensitivity issues since she already is a single mother at a young age, and the father of the baby just took off. She says that her parents already think I am a decent person because I had flowers delivered to her on Valentines Day, plus I constantly send the parents regards.If there are any suggestions as to what is culturally appropriate for the first visit with the parents, I would love to hear it.
For example, I was always taught that a guest should always come to a host with a gift in their hand (wine, flowers, chocolate).
Again, thanks to all for your help.