My name is Terry. I live in a small town on the north coast of California. I'm engaged to a sweet pinay from Cebu. Her name is Teresa.
My late wife and I were together for over 35 years. She died nearly two years ago. Her death was not unexpected, but the reality of her being gone was difficult to deal with. After a few months of recovering, I settled into the life of a bachelor/widower, and had planned to remain single and free for the remainder of my life. Eventually I realized being alone was not for me, and had begun to at least consider finding a companion. I found my new love by chance.
My younger brother, Dave, had been communicating with a woman from Cebu. He was introduced to her by a mutual friend, also from Cebu, who married a fine man in our town more than 20 years ago. Dave was planning to journey to the Philippines to meet his girlfriend, and asked if I would like to travel with him. I had been to Subic Bay in 1972/73 back in my Navy days, and thought it might be a nice adventure to see the Visayas. Our friend Carmen mentioned, "By the way. I have another very close friend, a very nice single woman. Would you like to meet her when you are in Philippines?" Teresa and I began emailing and texting. We agreed to meet when I arrived with my brother. I thought I would make a nice new friend; maybe more, who knows?
It turned out to be much more! We hit it off amazingly well. The girls were excellent guides. The four of us had such a great time together. I met her wonderful family twice. When Teresa introduced her mother, I feigned disbelief, saying, "I must've misunderstood. Surely this is your sister!" Everyone knew it was BS on my part, but Mama loved it! I learned many years ago It never hurts to endear yourself to your sweetheart's mother, ha!
Teresa felt "right" to be with. I felt love again! My concern was our age difference. I was 64, Teresa 53. Just a couple of kids, haha! We kept in touch by texts, phone calls, letters. We realized we needed to be together, so when I made it clear I wanted us to marry, Teresa readily agreed. She also assured me the age difference is ok. We are now a year older. Truth be told, I feel much younger since meeting my sweet Pinay!
Last month, Teresa traveled up to Manila for her physical exam and interview. She passed the physical, but unfortunately our petition for fiance' visa was rejected. Of course, we are both devastated. I'll post soon in the appropriate section, asking for any insight and advice from members. We consider this a setback, not a failure.
I really enjoy reading the stories and adventures of members of this community, and plan to keep reading and contributing in the future. By the way, my brother's fiance' petition has been approved. She will be coming to the U.S. after the new year.Thanks and best regards, Terry