Hi everyone, I'm new here, but thought to share my experience and get some feedback from others here that may have had a similar experience. I'm from New Jersey, USA and over 2 years ago, received a Facebook message from a childhood friend of mine that lives in Hawaii with his younger Filipina wife. His wife with whom he's been married to for 7 years and gave him a son, is from the provinces of Leyte. She wanted him to contact his friends and try to find a penpal or boyfriend for a woman friend of hers that lives in Metro Manila. I agreed to contact her friend, mostly just to chat, since I was a bit lonely after my wife died in 2003 and my daughter grew up and moved out on her own. Well, my new friend, I'll call "Sally" because I don't want to use her real name, and I seemed to hit it off, and before long we were chatting hours every day. After a year, I wanted to meet her in person, and I flew to Manila and she and her family met me at the airport. I stayed at a hotel near her apartment, and was surprised she wanted to stay with me and not go home. Over the two weeks I was in Phils, we did everything together and had a great time. I went back later that year for her birthday, and surprised her with an engagement ring, which she accepted. Things were going very well between us.
Cut to Sept. 2016. I paid for Sally to attend college for a year, and since she wasn't working, I was paying for her nice apartment, which she let two of her underemployed brothers live in and not ask them for any contribution towards the rent, utilities, or food. On top of that, I'm friends with 30 of her relatives on Facebook, and they are constantly asking me for "loans" haha right. I'm giving Sally $800 USD a month, and she is always running short, and begging for more. I found that strange because before she met me, she was living on less than $200 comfortably. Sally refused to provide me with an accounting of where the money was going. Finally a month ago, after I had just given her her $800 allowance, she said she needed $60 to buy her dog a birthday cake. I calmly told her to just go to the store and get a cake mix, and some icing and bake her own, because the dog won't know the difference. A few days later, she tells me that she doesn't ever want to discuss money with me again, wants no children with me, won't be intimate with me, and then makes a critical error. She asked me if my mother still thinks she is just using me for my money and to get her green card. This set off a huge red flag with me, because never has my mother ever voiced that concern, and I never told Sally anything remotely like that. So, maybe I'm overreacting, but I called off our engagement, and told her I would not be sending any more money. And that, my friends was the last I ever heard from Sally. No calls, no texts, no Facebook messages, no asking me to reconsider. Nothing, and it's been over a month since then.
I'd like to think that Sally really loved me even though she was 28 and I was 53. I'm trying to stay positive, because for over 2 years she made me feel loved, and I got 4 nice vacations in Philippines with her out of it. So any reactions? Please comment, I'd like to learn from this experience, and not repeat it. Ohh by the way, news of our breakup spread fast, and I've been getting around 2-3 requests from Pinays who want to have my babies, and be my girlfriend, etc. Some are only 18 years old. I've had to block several already, because it was too disturbing to me.