Hello guys! How are you?
Life was rough in the past few years for me and here I am back to post with another trial of my life! Thanks to the heaven that I still have the patience to hold on and to move on .
I would like to share my current experience so that I can have your critics ,idea and opinions.
Here comes...my step-son has grown-up in height and by age .He changes a lot even towards me . He got his first love gf,second love and the third one will end into marriage. With his first girl who came to live with us,I tried to please them the best I can considering that she and my step-son were both young and they need to be trained well in life as they made me understood. His father didn’t really had a sympathy towards the girl,so some kind of pressure and issue existed among us. Sounded like the fault was given also to me as to why step-son and her broke-up.This was what my step-son told me. With his second girl,I promised myself to limit creating any kind of issue and even to approach his gf,have hugs etc,because I felt that I always end-up being hurt by them. Same as with this last girl that he has. As family,we go out sometimes,we eat together but I don’t really create a kind of friendship with her.I am waiting that she approach me for anything as she will be the one to live with us sooner and she will be the one who will adapt the situation. I don’t think of needing her anyway,coz I am an independent type for household chores and we will have a separate home.you
Two nights ago, I got a call from my step-son telling that he urgently need to speak with his dad who was not at home at that moment. Once he went back home,I gave a call to his son with the loudspeaker on ,as usual. He emphasized by telling, “ Dad,is mama brainy? My girl found some photos of us together with my first gf in fb that mama is using, reason why my gf doesn’t want to live with me anymore nor to marry me!” His dad replied, “ I don’t know what you’re talking about,better you speak with mama to clear it up.” I was hurt when step-son told me,” What the heck of you!Why you still keep those photos of my ex as I knew that you don’t like her nor she is your friend? You should delete all those photos!” I said to him, “ What’s the issue,I don’t hate her and I love those photos for my memories.Anyway,those photos are not in your fb and why to give problems for those? She was your ex,your past experience. Even your dad has his past stories!”
I am really upset guys.It seems that the limit of my patience has reached. My husband scolded his son. With all the happenings,there’s no good atmosphere at home. I also sent a message to my step-son telling him that if his soon to be wife has an issue about those photos,she must contact me first and ask explanation before bursting out of anger.It seems that she is not an intelligent girl like the two girls that he had. I make him feel that his gf lost a good opportunity with me to be friends and I don’t think there will be a good start when she will come to live with us.
As of now,we don't communicate with each other and my heart is aching while i am waiting for the moment that she will come in our place to be my step-son's wife. I don't want to take any moves to ruin their marriage plan.
If you were in my situation,how could deal with it?
Ps. I hope that my English be understood
Edited by melody, 09 November 2017 - 11:06 AM.