Hi everyone. I am a little frustrated by a few things that has been going on with my wife and I, and I am hoping that by writing about them, maybe I will feel better about things. I married my wife in August 2012 in Tagum City on Mindanao. The plan is, for my wife to move to Canada with the kids, and live here for a few years, while we save up money, and in a few years, we move back to the Philippines, and live the rest of our lives in a tropical paradise...with no more cold winter.
I realized early on, that we were going to have an issue with her children, as far as immigration goes. Neither has a father around, and since we need a fathers permission to bring them to Canada, this would be an issue. So I suggested that she go through the courts, and obtain sole custody. With sole custody, the Canadian Government would be satisfied that we would not need a fathers permission...one that would be impossible for us to get. But here is where the frustrations started. Jonna dragged her feet. Time was passing, and it felt like the more often I brought it up, the more frustrated with me she became. Finally, after more than a year of marriage, she found a lawyer, and started the proceedings.
My plan is, to apply for the immigration, and by the time they get to processing her application, we will have the sole custody in place. So when the embassy tells her that this will be required, she will be able to produce the court documents. Over a year ago, she had told me of a spelling mistake on her birth certificate as well. I had told her that she should get this fixed as soon as possible, so we could get her passport, But, like the issue of sole custody, this too wasn't done. Recently, she decided to finally start, and has discovered that this is going to be a timely process. Because her father wasn't registered at birth, to fix her certificate requires that her father get a birth certificate first. This ivolves a plane ride to somewhere, and I am sure it will add untold months to an already stupidly long process.
So in over a year of being married, we have a court case started for sole custody, and nothing else. At best, I am hopeful that we will be together in 2 years. That's assuming that she gets moving now on this birth certificate. Has anyone else had frustrations in preparing documents for immigration? She feels bad that she dragged her feet, and is regretting that all this time passed. She wants us to be together, and is upset when I tell her to expect another 2 years. I am very frustrated.