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#1 tipmart87

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Posted 02 July 2013 - 07:34 PM

Hello

 

The wife and were wondering if any memeber has had problems when a family member arrived to live with them?  The wife has been thinking about possbly bringing her mother over here to live with us for a while.  

 

Curious as to whether a lack of english would be a problem, did the parents want to go out and mix or where they happy to just stay at home?

 

Thank you for any advice


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Posted 02 July 2013 - 11:36 PM

Funnily, we are having the same discussion. Currently we have a brother staying with us, while getting reclimated to Canada. No issues, but you have to be firm in what your expectations are from the house guest. But the situation has become murkier, for lack of better term, as my inlaws are moving here, too. So we decided to buy a condo and rent it to them and my brother in law. Of course, since money is moving from the market, to real property, I feel it should be rented at near market price, with contracts signed, etc, so both parties are aware of their responsiblities. Not sure if my wife sees it the same way. (okay, probably not). Of course,the market price for rental has just skyrocketed, as we had massive floods here, where condemmed houses are significant, making the rental market even tighter. My plan is to charge approximately 80% of market before flood, not sure if one would considered that fair or not.

Guess what I am saying, is make sure everyone is on the same page, or the stress level in the household and marriage will increase. As for the lack of English being a hinderence, it won't, they will get hooked up with more friends in three months than you could believe. I know my in laws have made friends here during their visits, usually at senior daycares (aka mall food courts or casinos)

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Posted 03 July 2013 - 02:33 AM

Hello

 

The wife and were wondering if any memeber has had problems when a family member arrived to live with them?  The wife has been thinking about possbly bringing her mother over here to live with us for a while.  

 

Curious as to whether a lack of english would be a problem, did the parents want to go out and mix or where they happy to just stay at home?

 

Thank you for any advice

There's always problems with relatives staying with us.  

 

We've heard many stories about parents inability to adjust to living with the family here in the U.S.  Language, lack of famiiarity with appliances, homesickness, adjustment to food, etc., all contribute to their (and your) discomfort.

 

The rule of thumb is that the visiting relatives will need their own space, ability to come and go comfortably, proximity to other Filipinos (stores, church, neighbors, etc.), and your good nature.

 

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Posted 03 July 2013 - 05:40 AM

me and my husband never had any problems or issues when my mother moved to live with us. it's been 3 years now that she lived with us here in Atlanta. She first lived with my younger sister for 2 years in the county side of Georgia but she prefer to live to lived with us since we lived in the City where buses and trains are accessible for her so she can go to work. she is 68 now. even when she cook something smelly my husband never complaints about the smell. Now my 20 years old daugther from the philippines finally moved and lived with us now and no problem even the 3 of us would talked and converse in Tagalog or watching TFC on the TV while he is around. With regards to her English its fair enough that her and my husband understand each other when they have a conversation especially when he will watched TFC with us my mama is the interpreter. At 68, my mom still move around and can go to downtown by herself by just taking the bus and the train. that's how smart she is. And she is still working part time now for 5 years here in the US.

Edited by JLW36, 03 July 2013 - 05:51 AM.

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Posted 03 July 2013 - 11:04 AM

To go along with the OP, I am curious if health care costs have been an issue for any of you who brought a family member over? I know with my wife's rather large and now aging family major healthcare issues for them even in the Philippines has cost us a small fortune in recent years. So if someone you brought over were to have a major healthcare issue, how would that be handled? 


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Posted 03 July 2013 - 03:33 PM

To go along with the OP, I am curious if health care costs have been an issue for any of you who brought a family member over? I know with my wife's rather large and now aging family major healthcare issues for them even in the Philippines has cost us a small fortune in recent years. So if someone you brought over were to have a major healthcare issue, how would that be handled? 

When elderly relatives have health problems, you have three options

 

1.  Have health insurance paid for in advance, which can be expensive, with large co-payments and exclusions for pre-existing conditions.

2.  Pay cash for medical procedures when they occur, which means that you, the responsible relative, will sign an authorizing form at commencement of services, and could be stuck with serious medical bills afterwards.

3.  Find low-cost or free clinics or special programs where parents can receive subsidized treatment.  The availability and quality of such options vary with geographic areas.  Urban areas in California have many such facilities.  I can't speak for Pocatello, Idaho or NYC, but the atmosphere in some of the waiting rooms of such clinics might motivate the parents to return to the Philippines real soon.

 

Having said all the above, I would add that many sponsoring families send parents back to the Philippines when the shock of high-priced medical services becomes a reality.  Back in the late 80's and early 90's when Federal and State benefit programs were being changed to exclude non-citizens, there was a rush to obtain citizenship for many older folks, as well as many families simply sending mom or dad (or both) back to the PI.

 

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Posted 05 July 2013 - 02:13 AM

Thanks for the replies.  Health insurance was another of my worries and it was something i would have had to look into very carefully.  Her mother would have been staying with us and right now our home is not that big so while it may have been great for my wife at the start we btoh may have grown tired of it all too soon.


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#8 James in Austin Tx

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Posted 05 July 2013 - 04:27 PM

Not quite parents, we had my wifes brother in law (filipino) move in from San Fran looking for work here.. He is more hyper than me and cleaning things all over this place - finally got him a job as a heavy equip operator to keep him busy, other than that its nice haveing good folks in the house.. BTW we also have a friend of the wife's and her 2 kids living here temp till they get there apt in a few weeks.. Nothing like kids and family ; )... 



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Posted 05 July 2013 - 10:01 PM

To go along with the OP, I am curious if health care costs have been an issue for any of you who brought a family member over? I know with my wife's rather large and now aging family major healthcare issues for them even in the Philippines has cost us a small fortune in recent years. So if someone you brought over were to have a major healthcare issue, how would that be handled? 



I was able to secure my mom a Financial Assistance Program @ Grady Hospital.
Clinic Visit : Minimum Visit Payment of $10 / 0% of charges for each visit
Emergency Room : Minimum Visit Payment of $50 / 0% charges for each visit
Outpatient Testing : (e.g., Lab, EKG, X-Ray) Minimum Visit Payment of $10 / 0% charges for each visit
Routine Dental Care : Minimum Visit Payment of $10 / 0% charges for each visit

Then she have to pay $6.00 for each prescription she needs to buy at their Pharmacy.

My Daugther's IR2 Visa Timeline

October 03-2011-Sent the Application for I-130 Package
October 07-Received USCIS acceptance of Application by e-mail
October 12, 2011-Received Notice of Action by Mail
April 27,2012-Finally Petition is approved!
May 3,2012-Received NOA 2 in the mail
May 29,2012-NVC assigned Manila Case Number MNL2012XXXXXX
May 30,2012-Assigned myself as the Choice of Agent for (DS3032)
June 3,2012-Received and Paid AOS Bill Invoice Bill
June 7,2012-Registered as The Choice of agent
June 7,2012-Receieved and Paid Immigrant Visa Application Bill Invoice
June 10,2012-Complete/signed forms DS230, Affidavit of Support I-864, I-864A
June 26,2012-Mailed all required documents to NVC
July 11,2012-NVC Case Complete!
Aug 6 & 7 - Medical Schedule
Aug 15 - Interview Appointment @ 6:15AM
Aug 15 - Interview Approved.
Aug 23 - Visa/Packet Received
Oct 15 - Bound for PI to pick her up.
October 31, 2012 - Our(POE)Atlanta, Ga.

November 12, 2012- She got her 10 years Greencard

N-400 (U.S Citizenship)
March 08,2011-Mailed package Application for U.S Citizenship
March 17-Receipt Notice (Form I-797C)Received by E-mail
March 21-Recieved I-797C by mail
April 12-Biometrics @ 8AM
August 4-Interview @ 8:40AM. Interview & Oath taking the same day.

I-751 Petition to Remove the Conditions of Residence
June 01,2009-Submit my application (VSC)
June 12-Received NOA 1
June 19-Received Biometrics Appointment
July 08-Biometrics Schedule
Oct 25-Request for the removal of condition approved
Oct 29-Production of the new card
Nov 07-Got my 10 years Greencard

Mom's 2006 IR5





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