Non-stop financial demand…this seems to be a never ending story with our family in Pinas and it’s all around issue among Filipino people working,married to and living abroad.
Facing the fact,some of us can satisfy our own basic needs having more comodities for a living than in Pinas and mostly can provide more financial assistant to our family there but we can’t deny that we hardly making money here while our families are only waiting and asking everyday more. Who’s faulty and who’s to blame?
I create this thread coz something really bothers my whole being in these days. Lately i found out that my sincerity is not enough to make my family in Pinas understand certain things in life while they witness the image of other Filipino families having someone sending them money with such luxury of living on the bed of roses ( sad to say,some are just to show-off, boasting but the fridge is empty).
Allow me to murmur here my situation guys. I said it here that I’m planning to travel back Pinas after some years of busy-crazy life. My experiences taught me to prepare ahead of time the possible expenses…where the money should be spent,how to spend wisely and what to spend. My parents can emagine that I am fortunate to have a husband who has a stable economic situation & auto-sufficient enough without depending from others but this doesn’t mean that I and hubby can just pick-up a magic stick & pluff here comes the money. Never I give to my family the idea that we are making money instantly nor we are the bank-owner. Everything you have & you want in this world has its price!
The problems is….my brother wish to marry & about 2 years he says it to me but he prefers to wait for my return in Pinas. Last year he told me that he already took a decision to marry without my presence,so my family asked financial assistant. I knelt like a beggar infront of my husband asking for mercy and piece of bread. About two weeks,after I sent the additional amount to my parents, mom informed me that brother changed mind.it was just to see if I can really help him for such matter. Without any complain….just recommended them to keep the money and they assured me to stay tranquil. A week ago,I received a message from them written in a jokingly manner that for bros wedding,they suppose to ask me $100.000. I didn’t give any importance to it. Now they let me understand that the wedding should be prior to my arrival because “ Here Comes The Bride,3 Months Inside”. So my family is asking again additional money reasoning out that the amount I gave before is not enough. This time my answer is NEGATIVE, no additional amount I can give and I can’t really give. I can’t grant what they wish nor shoulder all their extra expenses. It’s a year that I don’t buy new clothes just to save money for them when I will be back (don’t share to them my plans) and you know there are many waiting for me.
Guys , i know how poor the Phil. life and I know that the cost of living there increase but I’m not exactly aware of how much pesos needed to have just a decent and simple wedding. If you could me any idea…I have an idea to fire them back too..hahaaa. Let me think that there will 100 persons invited plus those unexpected visitors coming. If the party is held in the restaurant and at home…the possible amount to spend is???
I makes me hurt to say NO to my brother but I want to teach him not to depend on me everytime and I want him to learn that if one makes a decision or plan in the future,he/she should take a sit and calculate first the possible expenses, the possible outcomes and save money for rainy days. I also warn him always that once he has kids,I’m not responsible for their material needs.
This continue demands huh…..unresolvable one!