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#1 joseph41

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 03:43 AM

Hi everyone! Iím 2 months into my Filipina adventure and it certainly has been just that! It started when I met a nice young pinay in yahoo chat. We bonded instantly and while I hadnít been looking for a wife, I quickly warmed up to the idea of it. Iím 41, never married and no kids and I like it that way. But getting to know this 28 year old RN for a month online and on the phone was amazing. I know US women and Latinas quite well and she was like nothing I had seen before. You all know what Iím talking about wink.gif

But it didnít end well with her, as when we started getting closer she admitted she had a real-life bf. Said she was trying to break up with him gently, but felt guilty about it all because she had fallen in love with me. I wasnít sure if the admission was a good thing or a bad thing, but it ruined the trust and the relationship was over. We both were hurt, stayed in touch for another week and then drifted apart.

I moped around for another week and then discovered the best cure for heartbreak ever! FilipinaHeart.com! LOL. I signed up, paid for 3 months and the interest started rolling in. I mean REALLY rolling in. the IMís were coming in constantly and I was getting dozens of messages a day. After a week I was up to 450 women/girls that were interested. It was crazy! I was chatting with beautiful girls, getting to know the country, and having a blast. Broken heart? Gone! haha

But today, after just one week, I took my profile off the site. Why? Because I found her. Actually I found her the second day, but today I realized that I have found the woman of my dreams and it would be futile to search any more. She feels the same way and her family and friends have even given me their blessings. She is a 23 year old school teacher in Leyte working to get her masters degree. Yeah she is cute, but Iím blown away by her character and maturity. Sheís sweet, kind, polite, funny, respectful, thoughtful, honest, considerate and needless to sayÖ. I have fallen hard. Believe me, I did not plan on this or expect this in any manner. But here it is and Iím loving every minute of it.

Before even met her I was planning a 6 month trip to phils beginning December, so we have talked about taking it slow and really getting to know each other before I get over there. Like building a house solidly from the ground up instead of rushing to get it built and then watching it crumble. I called her today and we talked for an hour and even though she was with her friends, I seriously have never heard a woman that happy in my life. And knowing she is my perfect match, well, Iím just waiting to wake up from this dream. She knows that Iím not rich by any standards and that we will never live in the US, and its not an issue. She loves Leyte and wants to spend her whole life there.

Anyways, I hope this can be a good success story for this type of endeavor, but itís still very early. And all my real-life friends are sick of me talking about her, so I thought I would subject the internet world to my ridiculous happinessÖhehe. J Life is good, but Iíve been around the block a time or two and Iím going in with both eyes wide open. Wish me luck!




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Posted 15 September 2010 - 04:10 AM

QUOTE (joseph41 @ Sep 14 2010, 08:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi everyone! Iím 2 months into my Filipina adventure and it certainly has been just that! It started when I met a nice young pinay in yahoo chat. We bonded instantly and while I hadnít been looking for a wife, I quickly warmed up to the idea of it. Iím 41, never married and no kids and I like it that way. But getting to know this 28 year old RN for a month online and on the phone was amazing. I know US women and Latinas quite well and she was like nothing I had seen before. You all know what Iím talking about wink.gif

But it didnít end well with her, as when we started getting closer she admitted she had a real-life bf. Said she was trying to break up with him gently, but felt guilty about it all because she had fallen in love with me. I wasnít sure if the admission was a good thing or a bad thing, but it ruined the trust and the relationship was over. We both were hurt, stayed in touch for another week and then drifted apart.

I moped around for another week and then discovered the best cure for heartbreak ever! FilipinaHeart.com! LOL. I signed up, paid for 3 months and the interest started rolling in. I mean REALLY rolling in. the IMís were coming in constantly and I was getting dozens of messages a day. After a week I was up to 450 women/girls that were interested. It was crazy! I was chatting with beautiful girls, getting to know the country, and having a blast. Broken heart? Gone! haha

But today, after just one week, I took my profile off the site. Why? Because I found her. Actually I found her the second day, but today I realized that I have found the woman of my dreams and it would be futile to search any more. She feels the same way and her family and friends have even given me their blessings. She is a 23 year old school teacher in Leyte working to get her masters degree. Yeah she is cute, but Iím blown away by her character and maturity. Sheís sweet, kind, polite, funny, respectful, thoughtful, honest, considerate and needless to sayÖ. I have fallen hard. Believe me, I did not plan on this or expect this in any manner. But here it is and Iím loving every minute of it.

Before even met her I was planning a 6 month trip to phils beginning December, so we have talked about taking it slow and really getting to know each other before I get over there. Like building a house solidly from the ground up instead of rushing to get it built and then watching it crumble. I called her today and we talked for an hour and even though she was with her friends, I seriously have never heard a woman that happy in my life. And knowing she is my perfect match, well, Iím just waiting to wake up from this dream. She knows that Iím not rich by any standards and that we will never live in the US, and its not an issue. She loves Leyte and wants to spend her whole life there.

Anyways, I hope this can be a good success story for this type of endeavor, but itís still very early. And all my real-life friends are sick of me talking about her, so I thought I would subject the internet world to my ridiculous happinessÖhehe. J Life is good, but Iíve been around the block a time or two and Iím going in with both eyes wide open. Wish me luck!

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Sounds wonderful. Philippines is a beautiful place. The culture as you are finding out is quite a bit different from the one you are used to. Moving there will be a real adventure smile.gif

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 05:16 AM

Everyone who reads your post would giggle, you sound like you're a teenager that fell inlove for the very first time. Congrats and goodluck with your long distance relationship.





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Posted 15 September 2010 - 05:33 AM

that we will never live in the US, and its not an issue!
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 05:46 AM

Hmm,

I would say guard your heart until you have actually met her in person. Online and even on the phone people can put a very different face, and it would tough if things didn't work out.

For me, I was on Filipina Heart 4 years and chatted with thousands upon thousands of ladies, often at least 10 per day. I called a few.

It wasn't until I met one in person that I fell in love. Within 40 minutes, I knew this was the lady I was meant to marry.
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 06:14 AM

QUOTE (raindreamer333 @ Sep 15 2010, 12:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hmm,

I would say guard your heart until you have actually met her in person. Online and even on the phone people can put a very different face, and it would tough if things didn't work out.

For me, I was on Filipina Heart 4 years and chatted with thousands upon thousands of ladies, often at least 10 per day. I called a few.

It wasn't until I met one in person that I fell in love. Within 40 minutes, I knew this was the lady I was meant to marry.




It only takes one happy ending, right? You're very sweet. I'm trying to dodge the gold diggers, visa hunters, and trannies.

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 10:44 AM

QUOTE (joseph41 @ Sep 14 2010, 11:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It only takes one happy ending, right? You're very sweet. I'm trying to dodge the gold diggers, visa hunters, and trannies.

Good to hear you're going in with your eyes open smile.gif

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 11:37 AM

QUOTE (Ampalaya @ Sep 15 2010, 01:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
that we will never live in the US, and its not an issue!
How can you afford to live in the Phillipines?


I wonder the same and why never live in US?!

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 12:36 PM

OK Im in as well - why not in the US??
Please study up on all the cultural information, trip requirements for anything beyond a 21 day stay that is on this site..For a newby as you are in this, this site is a treasure trove of information..

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 12:41 PM

QUOTE (joseph41 @ Sep 14 2010, 11:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
She knows that Iím not rich by any standards and that we will never live in the US, and its not an issue. She loves Leyte and wants to spend her whole life there.


Not to put a rain on your parade or anything, but does this mean that you plan on living in the Philippines? If so, how do you plan to maintain an income?

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 03:35 PM

Its really easy to find the right one when you are looking, hard when your not. I wrote 13 ladies before I met Honey and where I agree I knew she was it instantly, I was working hard at 3 others when I met her and thought each of them had great possibilities (and probably would have made great wives). 6 Months is a long time and 1 week isn't. Expecting to live there with claims of not being rich. So many red flags.

Where I wish you well I think at this point its a fantasy and totally unrealistic. Please be careful.
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 03:59 PM

Thanks so much for all the input, everyone. As for money, I have a small online business that averages $1500 a month. Not so good for living in the US, but in phils it would suffice. I justt need reliable and somewhat fast internet. Doesn't have to be light speed, but dial up is not sufficient. I will post in appropriate thread for info that. That is my main concern, even more so than the women..lol.

And fendergirl...i agree and I do feel like a teen who just fell in love for the first time. And I'm a jaded misanthropist! haha Take care everyone.

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 04:13 PM

You sound so cute....Like a school boy who fell inlove with her first love lol.
Thats sweet Like reading your long post. Congratulation and best wishes.

I have a friend who married a Filipina too and they plan to live in Phils instead of her coming here in USA. I think he sold all his asset including house just to move there. So Goodluck!!

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 04:29 PM

[quote name='joseph41' date='Sep 15 2010, 05:59 AM' post='266211']
Thanks so much for all the input, everyone. As for money, I have a small online business that averages $1500 a month. Not so good for living in the US, but in phils it would suffice. I justt need reliable and somewhat fast internet. Doesn't have to be light speed, but dial up is not sufficient. I will post in appropriate thread for info that. That is my main concern, even more so than the women..lol.

And fendergirl...i agree and I do feel like a teen who just fell in love for the first time. And I'm a jaded misanthropist! haha Take care everyone.
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You can live on $1500 as long as you and your mate don't have any seriuos medical problems.
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 06:14 PM

Good luck on the Tagalog and local dialect without immersion into the cuture..
What would you use to get back to the USA on when you need to return occassionally? Have you had her check rent on places, electric which will be higher as us Kanos need some AC now and then ; (.. Remember your insurance if you have any is useless there. And most of all be prepared for a huge culture learning curve...

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Posted 15 September 2010 - 07:44 PM

QUOTE (Ampalaya @ Sep 15 2010, 09:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Tagalog and the local dialect.


It gets better cuz he has to learn the local dialect which is WARAY and is very hard to learn, I don't even think I could learn it myself and I can speak bisaya and tagalog LOL.





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Posted 15 September 2010 - 07:51 PM

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Remember your insurance if you have any is useless there.


It depends what kind of insurance he has. My husband is a federal agent and we have this insurance under federal employee program that is quite expensive but it works globally.

To the OP. Goodluck and I hope you will be truly happy with the hands of your loving Filipina someday! smile.gif
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 08:26 PM

Wow and the hospitals take this insurance when you go there?


QUOTE (CuteBabes @ Sep 15 2010, 02:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It depends what kind of insurance he has. My husband is a federal agent and we have this insurance under federal employee program that is quite expensive but it works globally.

To the OP. Goodluck and I hope you will be truly happy with the hands of your loving Filipina someday! smile.gif



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Posted 15 September 2010 - 09:01 PM

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Wow and the hospitals take this insurance when you go there?


Yep. In Manila I can use our insurance in Makati Medical Center and St. Lukes Hospital with all the list of the physicians and their specialty. When it comes to the medicine prescriptions we almost didnt pay anything, and even my pregnancy right now it is 100% covered and no copay everytime I visit my OBGYN. Isn't it amazing?

For all the previledges we have on our insurance I was even tempted several times to give birth in the Philippines. It's just that my husband doesn't allow me, since this is his first baby and he wanted to be with her princess when she comes out, lol.
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Posted 15 September 2010 - 09:01 PM

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Wow and the hospitals take this insurance when you go there?


The CIA "Company Card" is good almost everywhere wink.gif Backed by the full faith and credit of the U.S. Government.

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