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#1 melody

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Posted 07 November 2011 - 02:25 PM

I saw this statement in blog written by a Filipina and would like to share it here..at least I have one non-provoking post..:D

Smiling in a funeral home? Why most of the Filipinos do this?
Some would think its weird but if we will pay attention, we will notice this in almost every funeral home in the Philippines. Have you ever noticed this?


Filipinos are known for loving their family next to God, they feel so much pain when a family member dies. What they think is.. no matter how much we love a person, they can't be with us forever and we just have to accept the fact that they are gone and just hope that they are happy wherever they are now.

Filipinos cry when someone they love dies but they believe that they should be happy so their loved one's soul would be happy too.So even it hurts..they still can smile in a funeral home….


Do you agree?

Edited by melody, 07 November 2011 - 02:27 PM.

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Posted 07 November 2011 - 04:44 PM

I saw this statement in blog written by a Filipina and would like to share it here..at least I have one non-provoking post..:D

Smiling in a funeral home? Why most of the Filipinos do this?
Some would think its weird but if we will pay attention, we will notice this in almost every funeral home in the Philippines. Have you ever noticed this?


Filipinos are known for loving their family next to God, they feel so much pain when a family member dies. What they think is.. no matter how much we love a person, they can't be with us forever and we just have to accept the fact that they are gone and just hope that they are happy wherever they are now.

Filipinos cry when someone they love dies but they believe that they should be happy so their loved one's soul would be happy too.So even it hurts..they still can smile in a funeral home….


Do you agree?


I think it depends a lot on the circumstances of the death. A sudden violent death of a younger person is shocking and it is hard to see any good in it. The emotions expressed then are often completely of sadness and loss.

On the other hand, the death of a loved one who had a long and fruitful life is a time of reflection on a positive and productive life, and celebration of that life is appropriate after the realization that they are gone. A few tears are shed and then the smiles from the memories of the loved one take over.

The funeral home and the celebration of deceased is for the living, to help us adjust to the loss, to accept the finality, and to remember the joyful times we had with the person. While some of the occasions here in the US I have been to are somber and sad, but most involve smiles and happy recollections of the deceased, especially if they made the most of their lives.

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Posted 08 November 2011 - 02:57 AM

I saw this statement in blog written by a Filipina and would like to share it here..at least I have one non-provoking post..:D

Smiling in a funeral home? Why most of the Filipinos do this?
Some would think its weird but if we will pay attention, we will notice this in almost every funeral home in the Philippines. Have you ever noticed this?


Filipinos are known for loving their family next to God, they feel so much pain when a family member dies. What they think is.. no matter how much we love a person, they can't be with us forever and we just have to accept the fact that they are gone and just hope that they are happy wherever they are now.

Filipinos cry when someone they love dies but they believe that they should be happy so their loved one's soul would be happy too.So even it hurts..they still can smile in a funeral home….


Do you agree?

Yes

To me it is has never made sense when I hear "It is so horrible, they have gone to Heaven"

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Posted 08 November 2011 - 03:48 PM

Yes

To me it is has never made sense when I hear "It is so horrible, they have gone to Heaven"

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#5 melody

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Posted 09 November 2011 - 03:15 PM

I think it depends a lot on the circumstances of the death. A sudden violent death of a younger person is shocking and it is hard to see any good in it. The emotions expressed then are often completely of sadness and loss.

On the other hand, the death of a loved one who had a long and fruitful life is a time of reflection on a positive and productive life, and celebration of that life is appropriate after the realization that they are gone. A few tears are shed and then the smiles from the memories of the loved one take over.

The funeral home and the celebration of deceased is for the living, to help us adjust to the loss, to accept the finality, and to remember the joyful times we had with the person. While some of the occasions here in the US I have been to are somber and sad, but most involve smiles and happy recollections of the deceased, especially if they made the most of their lives.

-Keith


My Smile for you in Wof beeguy......

You're right depend a lot on the circumstances....specially for those affected ones,maybe hard to wear a smile and join in laughters while others are enjoying playing cards and dancing to the beat of the music.....i think the one who really laugh at loud and continue smiling are those neighbours who participate to mourn just for some pieces of bread and a cup of coffee or soft drinks :lol: (sorry my bad).

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Posted 09 November 2011 - 05:34 PM

My Smile for you in Wof beeguy......

You're right depend a lot on the circumstances....specially for those affected ones,maybe hard to wear a smile and join in laughters while others are enjoying playing cards and dancing to the beat of the music.....i think the one who really laugh at loud and continue smiling are those neighbours who participate to mourn just for some pieces of bread and a cup of coffee or soft drinks :lol: (sorry my bad).

Not bad ... they are following what people think of as the Irish tradition ... mourn the loss of a friend, tell tall tales of good times together and have a party to celebrate their going to Heaven.

A joyous wake is a tradition I can support :)

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#7 melody

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Posted 12 November 2011 - 03:15 PM

Not bad ...

:o

they are following what people think of as the Irish tradition ... mourn the loss of a friend, tell tall tales of good times together and have a party to celebrate their going to Heaven.

Ah it's an Irish tradition too.. How could you know that? Have you witnessed the Irish people when they have funeral..?
A joyous wake is a tradition I can support :)

For as long as including this joyous wake...no drunkards fight then...:lol:



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