I saw this statement in blog written by a Filipina and would like to share it here..at least I have one non-provoking post..
Smiling in a funeral home? Why most of the Filipinos do this?Some would think its weird but if we will pay attention, we will notice this in almost every funeral home in the Philippines. Have you ever noticed this?
Filipinos are known for loving their family next to God, they feel so much pain when a family member dies. What they think is.. no matter how much we love a person, they can't be with us forever and we just have to accept the fact that they are gone and just hope that they are happy wherever they are now.
Filipinos cry when someone they love dies but they believe that they should be happy so their loved one's soul would be happy too.So even it hurts..they still can smile in a funeral home….
Do you agree?
I think it depends a lot on the circumstances of the death. A sudden violent death of a younger person is shocking and it is hard to see any good in it. The emotions expressed then are often completely of sadness and loss.
On the other hand, the death of a loved one who had a long and fruitful life is a time of reflection on a positive and productive life, and celebration of that life is appropriate after the realization that they are gone. A few tears are shed and then the smiles from the memories of the loved one take over.
The funeral home and the celebration of deceased is for the living, to help us adjust to the loss, to accept the finality, and to remember the joyful times we had with the person. While some of the occasions here in the US I have been to are somber and sad, but most involve smiles and happy recollections of the deceased, especially if they made the most of their lives.
03/02/2010: First trip to the Philippines.
04/06/2010: Joined WOF
04/11/2010: Met on Cherry Blossoms.
05/06/2010: Talked her into joining WOF.
05/13/2010: Changed our statuses on Facebook to "in a relationship".
05/28/2010: Met her friend and her employer in Chicago (here on business).
08/17/2010: Booked trip to the Philippines.
09/05/2010: Arrived in Manila late at night. Met her in the waiting area. WOW!
09/08/2010: Met her parents and most of the family!
09/10/2010: Trekked to the top of Mt. Pinatubo and surprised her with a ring. She said YES!
09/19/2010: Had to return to US.
03/25/2011: Arrived second visit with her. Together again.
04/14/2011: Flew back to Chicago
07/25/2011: Starting on K-1 package. Where did I put all that stuff???
08/02/2011: K-1 Petition package mailed via Priority Mail to Texas Service Center! The clock is running...
08/09/2011: K-1 Petition package delivered to Texas Service Center.
08/13/2011: K-1 Petition NOA1 received.
01/11/2012: I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E) APPROVED
01/27/2012: NVC notification letter received.
02/07/2012: She received the letter from the US Embassy
02/14/2012: She passed the physical at St. Lukes!
02/15/2012: She finished her CFO seminar
02/27/2012: Depart O'Hare for Manila
02/28/2012: Arrived very late in Manila
03/01/2012: Interview at the US Embassy - K1 VISA APPROVED!!
03/07/2012: Visa delivered!
03/08/2012: Got CFO sticker.
03/16/2012: Arrived in the USA together.
05/18/2012: Mailed AOS package to USCIS.
08/10/2012: Received temp Emp Auth Card with Advanced Parole from USCIS.
04/04/2013: Received her Permanent Resident Card from USCIS!
03/20/2015: Mailed I-751 package to USCIS
03/23/2015: I-751 package arrived at the California Service Center
03/25/2015: I-751 check cashed by USCIS
03/27/2015: I-751 NOA received from USCIS
04/13/2015: Bought tickets to Phil for her brother's wedding in June.