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#1 Smitty91

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Posted 02 May 2011 - 04:53 PM

My asawa wants to have our daughters ears pierced. I'm against it. I just don't like the idea of causing my daughter pain. It broke my heart to see her react when she got her immunizations. My asawa says she won't remember the pain like she would if she is older. I say that when she is older she can make up her own mind about it and it won't be something that mom and dad "forced" on their child. Hope that makes sense.

Am I making this a bigger deal that it really is? How many others (if any) feel as I do and don't want to get their daughters ears pierced?

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Posted 03 May 2011 - 12:49 AM

I remember reading once that it is not a good idea to pierce a baby's ears because the ears are so small and undeveloped that what may be a perfectly positioned/centered pierce on a baby's earlobe will become off-centered as the baby grows older and the ear grows.

My asawa wants to have our daughters ears pierced. I'm against it. I just don't like the idea of causing my daughter pain. It broke my heart to see her react when she got her immunizations. My asawa says she won't remember the pain like she would if she is older. I say that when she is older she can make up her own mind about it and it won't be something that mom and dad "forced" on their child. Hope that makes sense.

Am I making this a bigger deal that it really is? How many others (if any) feel as I do and don't want to get their daughters ears pierced?

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Posted 03 May 2011 - 12:50 AM

My asawa wants to have our daughters ears pierced. I'm against it. I just don't like the idea of causing my daughter pain. It broke my heart to see her react when she got her immunizations. My asawa says she won't remember the pain like she would if she is older. I say that when she is older she can make up her own mind about it and it won't be something that mom and dad "forced" on their child. Hope that makes sense.

Am I making this a bigger deal that it really is? How many others (if any) feel as I do and don't want to get their daughters ears pierced?

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Posted 03 May 2011 - 01:40 AM

In the mexican tradition, baby girls ears being pierced b4 their 3month bday is common.

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Posted 03 May 2011 - 03:31 AM

My asawa wants to have our daughters ears pierced. I'm against it. I just don't like the idea of causing my daughter pain. It broke my heart to see her react when she got her immunizations. My asawa says she won't remember the pain like she would if she is older. I say that when she is older she can make up her own mind about it and it won't be something that mom and dad "forced" on their child. Hope that makes sense.

Am I making this a bigger deal that it really is? How many others (if any) feel as I do and don't want to get their daughters ears pierced?

Smitty

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Posted 03 May 2011 - 12:28 PM

My daughter is four-month-old now and she had her ear pierced when she was three-month-old. My husband and I both agreed to have it done now that she wont have to remember the pain. Goodluck on yours!
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Posted 03 May 2011 - 03:39 PM

The question is "why do you want them pierced now?"

Some cultures, including mine, has it that girls needs to use ear rings "as soon as possible", just to show that she is a girl.
I say, put her in a nice dress and that's enough. :)

We decided to let my daughters decide if they want it or not when they get older.
My 14 years old has changed her mind half dozen times, but has not done it yet, the other one is too young to care.

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Posted 06 May 2011 - 02:44 PM

I remember reading once that it is not a good idea to pierce a baby's ears because the ears are so small and undeveloped that what may be a perfectly positioned/centered pierce on a baby's earlobe will become off-centered as the baby grows older and the ear grows.


Hadn't heard that yet but makes sense. I'll pass that on to my asawa. Thanks.

In the mexican tradition, baby girls ears being pierced b4 their 3month bday is common.

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Well neither of us are Mexican, however my asawa has hinted about it being some sort of a tradition in the Philippines.

If you had a baby boy, would you have him circumcised while still a baby? If you'd rather do that, then it should be easier for you to have your baby girl's ear pierced.


Very good point. Hadn't thought of it that way. Yes. If we had a boy he most likely would have been circumcised at birth. With that said, I'm still not sold on the ear piercing. I guess I see circumcision as more of a health factor than "optional" as is ear piercing. In fact, having one's ears pierced can cause health issues. Also, when they circumcise, don't they use (normally) an anaesthetic? If so, then the baby wouldn't feel it being done.

My daughter is four-month-old now and she had her ear pierced when she was three-month-old. My husband and I both agreed to have it done now that she wont have to remember the pain. Goodluck on yours!


That's my asawa's main reason. She may not remember the pain, but she sure as heck will feel it.

The question is "why do you want them pierced now?"

Some cultures, including mine, has it that girls needs to use ear rings "as soon as possible", just to show that she is a girl.
I say, put her in a nice dress and that's enough. :)

We decided to let my daughters decide if they want it or not when they get older.
My 14 years old has changed her mind half dozen times, but has not done it yet, the other one is too young to care.

Peace,

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See above in my original post and responses regarding my asawas reasoning. I agree with you, let her (baby) decide when she is old enough.


Right now though, we are working on her Baptism. Shouldn't have to worry too much about ear piercing right now. :)
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Posted 07 May 2011 - 08:14 AM

It's a tradition in the Philippines. I don't understand how little babies can be comfortable with adult-sized earrings stuck in their ears. I am always hurt by the backs of the earrings poking into my head as I am sleeping. How can a baby be comfortable like that? I think little girls should be in their teens before they start to be conscious about looking beautiful.. children should be allowed to be children first. I had to wait until I was 12 to get my ears pierced of my own choice. It seemed like a long wait at the time :D It didn't hurt as I remember, just burned a little bit. I know it is cultural but I see it as vanity on the parents part - after all, should a baby care how she looks?

However this is all coming from my Canadian culture... for them, it's no big deal and it's what they do.. I don't suppose it does any major damage in the long run.


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Posted 07 May 2011 - 03:42 PM

My little princess will not be getting her ears pierced or anything else pierced if I have anything to say about it.....

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Posted 07 May 2011 - 09:29 PM

[quote name='SeeSea' timestamp='1304756059' post='276668']
It's a tradition in the Philippines. I don't understand how little babies can be comfortable with adult-sized earrings stuck in their ears. I am always hurt by the backs of the earrings poking into my head as I am sleeping. How can a baby be comfortable like that?


Correction, my daughter is wearing a very tiny earrings right now that really fits on her tiny both ears. As a baby I dont think she can differentiate of how being comfortable and uncomfortable same as a grown-up adult. When you were a baby have you remember how you were as a child?
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Posted 08 May 2011 - 04:00 PM

I have 2 daughters and 1 boy.My daughter was pierced when she was 4 months old and there are times it bleeds when she scratch her ears it took long to heal.So on my youngest daughter I did not pierced her ears bec,I dont want to see her ears bleed and she has sensitive skin so I waited until she grow up but then WHEN she was growing up it took me long time to convince her ,infact everytime I come home from middle east I brought gold earrings for my 2 daughters but she dont like the idea she is scared from the pain.My eldest daughter always loose the pair of her earring I can't count how many pair she had since she was pierced and all of those earrings are real gold.So my youngest daughter alliby is its just a waste of money if she keep loosing them just like her big sis.Now she will turned 14 and last week she told me she had pierced her ear.And I asked did it hurt ? she said NO!!

I brought my son to the doctor for circumciation until he was 7years old.

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Posted 10 May 2011 - 02:02 PM

I have 2 daughters and 1 boy.My daughter was pierced when she was 4 months old and there are times it bleeds when she scratch her ears it took long to heal.So on my youngest daughter I did not pierced her ears bec,I dont want to see her ears bleed


Can i join here just to relate my mom's experience...

Mom was pierced at very young age and that was really happened as what you stated Shone...for ear piercing and scratching ,her ears are getting sensitive. When i asked her to pierce my ears at the age of 7 she was scared and i said stay tranquil mom i try not to scratch my ears i'm no more a baby :D

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