This might sound a little like a sermon, but its a subject that touches me very deeply. My daughter is 18 and getting ready to go off to college and leave behind her childhood, so to speak. When she was 3 months old her grandfather died of cancer. I never felt like I really 'connected' with dad as he was always busy on our small farm (outside of his full time job in a factory). A few months before he died I realized that whenever I came home for a visit, when I was preparing to leave, I'd tell my mom I loved her as I gave her a hug but only shook my dad's hand. I wondered how my dad felt but never asked. Instead, I began extending the tradition to both my mom and my dad, even though I could tell that he did it with an uncomfortable-ness the first few times. After that, he stepped right up just like mom did! I have always regretted my ignorance about expressing to my dad what he meant to me.
The point Im getting at is that I have taught my daughter to never leave someone you care about wondering how you feel. As she gets ready to leave for another city to live, I hear her and her friends saying "I love you" when they go their own ways. Most of the people she hangs out with are other girls (I do not know or care what her personal preferences are)but I hear it as casual talk along with "see you later" between the girls and some of the guys in the clique.
Maybe its unique to her group or my sensitivity to something I dealt with long ago. The point is....the older I get, the more normal I think telling someone you love them is.
It's not the sermon of the mount like that of Jesus Christ but your sermon still gives as lesson....never leave someone we care about wondering how we feel.
For me it's surely an act of affection...it's really i mean for them not just like a simple "see you later". I called one of my friends in her birthday and she was surprised and in the phone call never we forgot to say "I Love You"...
So i should feel the same as you do the older I get, the more normal I think telling someone you love them is normal.
Thanks for your short story!
Edited by melody, 07 August 2011 - 10:51 AM.
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