This is my first post on this board, and I have not looked through all the other threads, so I apologize in advance if this topic has already been thoroughly discussed.
My situation is the following:
I am in my lates 30's, went through a heart wrenching divorce some years ago that practically bankrupted me. I am now very cautious and skeptical about Western women, especially women from Los Angeles, where I live. My life in LA has been very stagnant for some time now. I feel that I am just getting older and living from paycheck to paycheck (like most people do in this town, regardless of income). I am looking to start my life over, and have great plans to teach abroad, save a chunk of cash, and make a new life/home for myself. I am NOT in the rush to come back to the USA, and feel that I can live a much better quality life (perhaps in the Philippines).
So I met TONS of women online from the Philippines, but there is one I am especially connected to. We have been doing the emailing, chatting thing for awhile now. Her parents are already aware of my intent, and I have made tentative plans to even visit in a months time.
My concern came yesterday when it was our first time to talk on the phone. It was a very difficult and frustrating experience compared to the IM's and emails. I had to repeat myself over several times and I am not sure if the phone connection on her end was bad (cell phone) or that she just can't understand my English, or perhaps both.
But the experience kind of bursted my pink bubble. I began to have my first doubts while projecting into the future as to whether I can truly be in a satisfying relationship with someone who there will be a persistent language barrier. Online chatting was fine, but in conversation, it was difficult. I think she knows enough functional English to get by, but not to have a mature conversation. This concern is on top of the fact that she comes from a very small village in Agusan del Norte a province of Mindanao.
Has anybody been in a similar position that can offer guidance, advice and/or suggestions. Please share your experiences. I WANT to make this happen, but I don't want to set myself up for disappointment; Being commited to a woman who I can hardly have a conversation with. Would it be unrealistic or offensive to request that she go to an English language school if I payed?
Edited by Back2eden, 20 February 2007 - 09:42 PM.