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#1 HAWK

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 01:04 AM

In the past few week's this forum has gotten out of control with all the fighting. So this is what we are going to do.
From this time on anyone starting fights or flaming other members will get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop I'll ban you. If you get flamed DO NOT FLAME that person back. Just send me or one of the mods a PM and we will take care of it. If you flame back then you will also get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop then your banned as well. I will not put up with this kind of behavior on this forum. If you wanna fight and flame each other take it another forum, use PM's or email but not on the forum.

We have all worked to hard for to long to let a few bad members destroy this forum.
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Posted 24 February 2007 - 02:49 AM

QUOTE(HAWK @ Feb 24 2007, 12:04 PM) View Post
In the past few week's this forum has gotten out of control with all the fighting. So this is what we are going to do.
From this time on anyone starting fights or flaming other members will get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop I'll ban you. If you get flamed DO NOT FLAME that person back. Just send me or one of the mods a PM and we will take care of it. If you flame back then you will also get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop then your banned as well. I will not put up with this kind of behavior on this forum. If you wanna fight and flame each other take it another forum, use PM's or email but not on the forum.

We have all worked to hard for to long to let a few bad members destroy this forum.
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Fair enough Tim. How many warn do we get?...lol..

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 03:07 AM

good going Tim

It's about time!!!


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Posted 24 February 2007 - 03:30 AM

May I add something? Lately I've noticed that a good number of the flame wars have had something to do with something that happened off site, such as YM, other forums, friendster....places like that...

From time to time it is good that a member will make an announcement about something that everyone needs to know about, but if someone feels the need to air out some dirty laundry from something that happened way back in Asawa, or in Friendster or somewhere else...please be sure that there is a very good reason for it. If you have a dispute with another member because of something they said or did off-site, think twice before bringing it here.
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Posted 24 February 2007 - 07:53 AM

real good entry. this site is too valuable to allow itself to get caught up with the petty emotional bs. I don't think (I hope, anyway) that any of us join this for the verbal fighting.
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Posted 24 February 2007 - 08:22 AM

This is a hot topic on many forums and I have seen it lead to some censorship of peoples posts. In my opinion the plan Tim has is the only way to deal with people that have no other outlet but to come here and cut down people and have an audience for it.

I have been the owner and a moderator on some other boards when this type of activity begins. The only way is to get rid of those few that ruin it for the rest of us. People have to understand the site they are posting on, what its purpose is. Its called The World of Filipinas, not The World of Flaming Others. We are a family here, and yes famlies do fight, but there are ways of certain members of that family to go off in private and handle their problems with out letting everyone else here know their business.

We are here to learn a culture, learn a language, and learn how to marry the most caring, beautiful women in the world, and how to bring them home to have a wonderful life and a beautiful family. We are here to share those experiences and learn from them.

Thats just my opinion, I could be wrong....

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 08:36 AM

QUOTE(HAWK @ Feb 24 2007, 01:04 PM) View Post
In the past few week's this forum has gotten out of control with all the fighting. So this is what we are going to do.
From this time on anyone starting fights or flaming other members will get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop I'll ban you. If you get flamed DO NOT FLAME that person back. Just send me or one of the mods a PM and we will take care of it. If you flame back then you will also get ONE warning to stop. If you don't stop then your banned as well. I will not put up with this kind of behavior on this forum. If you wanna fight and flame each other take it another forum, use PM's or email but not on the forum.

We have all worked to hard for to long to let a few bad members destroy this forum.
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Thank you sir Tim for such action. I know some members(including myself) are afraid to share their experiences here or concerns becoz others tend to flame them.

More power to you!


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Posted 24 February 2007 - 09:02 AM

That's a fair and great decision. This site isn't for fighting or so. Fights doesnt help those who wanna learn here especially to newbies who thought this site may be of great assistance to them.

Thank you!

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 12:38 PM

This is a good decision, we can't let a few destroy this forum. This is a Christian Fili-AM site and hopefully those that come here will feel that spirit and want to become a blessing to someone. This does not mean you have to agree with everything, or dance around an issue. It just mean to leave the childishness and mean spirited behavior out of your post.
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Posted 24 February 2007 - 05:30 PM

Thanks for putting your foot down Tim.

There have been so many cat fights here in the past weeks that it resembled the scenes of the 1980's tv series "Dynasty" with Joan Collins constantly bickering with Linda Evans. While it may be entertaining and amusing in the world of soap opera, in real life unhealthy conflict becomes damaging to everyone around it not only to the people involved.

I have noticed in the past weeks that a number of members who once actively posted and gave good advices just suddenly stopped. Could it be because they are averse to conflict? Hopefully with this new rule they would come back and start posting again.


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Posted 24 February 2007 - 05:44 PM



Amen Tim ...

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 07:06 PM

QUOTE(denterprise @ Feb 24 2007, 07:38 AM) View Post
This is a good decision, we can't let a few destroy this forum. This is a Christian Fili-AM site and hopefully those that come here will feel that spirit and want to become a blessing to someone. This does not mean you have to agree with everything, or dance around an issue. It just mean to leave the childishness and mean spirited behavior out of your post.


I asked Tim that question once before. Can I only come here if I am a Christian and join some form of your church? Is this ONLY a Christian Fil/Am forum?

I was told it was not a Christian only site but that whatever your religious belief was you are welcome.

I think there is a strong Christian belief here and Tim made a special area directly related to Christian stuff.

Please again let me know if only Christians are welcome on this site. Or correct that perception for others.

Must I convert to converse to anyone on this site? Is that how a Christian lives their life? Just curious........... Just give me my walking papers if only Christians are welcome on WOF!

I hope my question don't get me my first warning...... But if you feel that I am the trash on your site set me free and turn me off. I will whine but will just turn the other cheek to your actions in the spirt of a Christian!

I also want to say I support your position. I think I even asked a question to Tim some days ago on his level of tollerance for ignorance on the site. I see he found his level!

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 07:26 PM

Good decision Tim.There are plenty of other venues outside of this forum where individuals can indulge their immature, childish behaviour.In regards to the forum itself it is my understanding it is open to all regardless of religious or non-religious background.There is a specific topic area for issues of Christian relevance for those of us interested in pursuing such topics in further depth without in any way imposing a particular belief system on others.-------Terry

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 08:11 PM

I think this site is all about helping others. I think all religions believe that, no matter what your background or beliefs.

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 11:40 PM

QUOTE(username @ Feb 24 2007, 02:06 PM) View Post
I asked Tim that question once before. Can I only come here if I am a Christian and join some form of your church? Is this ONLY a Christian Fil/Am forum?

I was told it was not a Christian only site but that whatever your religious belief was you are welcome.

I think there is a strong Christian belief here and Tim made a special area directly related to Christian stuff.

Please again let me know if only Christians are welcome on this site. Or correct that perception for others.

Must I convert to converse to anyone on this site? Is that how a Christian lives their life? Just curious........... Just give me my walking papers if only Christians are welcome on WOF!

I hope my question don't get me my first warning...... But if you feel that I am the trash on your site set me free and turn me off. I will whine but will just turn the other cheek to your actions in the spirt of a Christian!

I also want to say I support your position. I think I even asked a question to Tim some days ago on his level of tollerance for ignorance on the site. I see he found his level!


Username, I'm going to take a stab at answering some of your questions. I believe that this isn't an exclusively Christian site, but I think that Tim (my opinion, not tim's) created this site with the idea that people can be open about their beliefs if they choose to. Yes, there is an area that's dedicated exclusively to Christian related things, but I personally don't have a problem if peoples beliefs are discussed outside of that forum. I'm a Christian, but there are many many things that I believe that are not the same as what other Christians believe in. I'm not going to let it bother me if someone starts talking about something I don't personally believe in.

If there has been cases where you've been singled out because of your beliefs, and made to feel unwelcome here, please let Tim or one of the Mods know and we will do our best to fix that.

And remember, this is all my opinion, not anyone elses! laugh.gif

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Posted 24 February 2007 - 11:47 PM

QUOTE(username @ Feb 24 2007, 01:06 PM) View Post
I asked Tim that question once before. Can I only come here if I am a Christian and join some form of your church? Is this ONLY a Christian Fil/Am forum?

I was told it was not a Christian only site but that whatever your religious belief was you are welcome.

I think there is a strong Christian belief here and Tim made a special area directly related to Christian stuff.

Please again let me know if only Christians are welcome on this site. Or correct that perception for others.

Must I convert to converse to anyone on this site? Is that how a Christian lives their life? Just curious........... Just give me my walking papers if only Christians are welcome on WOF!

I hope my question don't get me my first warning...... But if you feel that I am the trash on your site set me free and turn me off. I will whine but will just turn the other cheek to your actions in the spirt of a Christian!

I also want to say I support your position. I think I even asked a question to Tim some days ago on his level of tollerance for ignorance on the site. I see he found his level!


OK Here it is one more time. You DO NOT have to be a Christian to join the forum. But NO ONE is allowed to flame or talk crap about Christian's or anyone else. End of story.
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Posted 25 February 2007 - 02:03 AM

QUOTE(HAWK @ Feb 23 2007, 08:04 PM) View Post
If you wanna fight and flame each other take it another forum, use PM's or email but not on the forum.

We have all worked to hard for to long to let a few bad members destroy this forum.
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Hmmmm,,,, this is sort of,,, well you know what I'm talking about. I remember posting a Good Luck to you if you get too big. Mostly because when you grow bigger there will always be the envious(forum envy? blink.gif ) and other sorts of troublemakers just because of the rule of percentages you're bound to end up with some real A-h*l*s. Depending on which view you take on my posts I could be one laugh.gif . With the demise of Asawa, all the bored trolls and ridiculers migrated here to start here where they left off there. I agree you should take control of YOUR forum, but the first member banned was banned for using e-mail. I think you know where this COULD go, but I won't. Good Luck to you again Hawk, you are right, there's no need for the bickering and gossip here, let it stay where it belongs.

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Posted 25 February 2007 - 04:04 AM

QUOTE(Henry @ Feb 24 2007, 09:03 PM) View Post
Hmmmm,,,, this is sort of,,, well you know what I'm talking about. I remember posting a Good Luck to you if you get too big. Mostly because when you grow bigger there will always be the envious(forum envy? blink.gif ) and other sorts of troublemakers just because of the rule of percentages you're bound to end up with some real A-h*l*s. Depending on which view you take on my posts I could be one laugh.gif . With the demise of Asawa, all the bored trolls and ridiculers migrated here to start here where they left off there. I agree you should take control of YOUR forum, but the first member banned was banned for using e-mail. I think you know where this COULD go, but I won't. Good Luck to you again Hawk, you are right, there's no need for the bickering and gossip here, let it stay where it belongs.

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Sir Henry,

i can assure you that the first member banned was not banned for using email...I wont go into details but I thkn Tim has adressed this with you before..if not he definatly addressed it here in the forum....several times...

sometimes tbis makes me wonder if YOU are that member and you are just usiing another IP address. HMMMMMM make u wonder...

all the bored trolls and ridiculers did not start anything in here....it seems to be a new set of problem makers...the folks that u reffered to from Asawa have migrated here but ther's no problems from them.

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Posted 25 February 2007 - 04:21 AM

Thank you Tim,

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Posted 25 February 2007 - 04:55 AM

QUOTE(Southerndon @ Feb 24 2007, 06:04 PM) View Post
Sir Henry,

i can assure you that the first member banned was not banned for using email...I wont go into details but I thkn Tim has adressed this with you before..if not he definatly addressed it here in the forum....several times...

sometimes tbis makes me wonder if YOU are that member and you are just usiing another IP address. HMMMMMM make u wonder...

all the bored trolls and ridiculers did not start anything in here....it seems to be a new set of problem makers...the folks that u reffered to from Asawa have migrated here but ther's no problems from them.

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