This is a very interesting topic and I cant help but butt in. I don't think that working in the bar, being a stripper whatsoever is the dark side. I think the dark side is marrying and using a person just to get one's self better. And that applies to every race. I think that the dark side is the part where the person has no regards to the other persons feelings and simply just using the person. I think that's the part that is not acceptable.
I have been to bars more than my fair share. And quiet honestly its enjoyable. I am fortunate that I never had to go to that kind of profession other than having my own stripping pole in the house but I have met quiet a few girls that work in bars as strippers and or more and most of them were really nice. Like if you don't see them as just bargirls, you would actually like them as a person and be friend them. Most of them have very strong beliefs and somewhat just forced to doing that and just accepting that lifestyle simply because they KIND OF didn't have a choice.
I just think that life presents all of us all kinds of situations and we all react and resolve them differently.
"Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans."
Thanks for posting your thoughts for my thread. Many things were said here previously that i do not remember anymore and i think to refresh my mind to those. If my confused mind undersrtood a little bit, i was corrected here by the use of dark side (title) but being comprehend by its related aspect..
I believe that dark side also represent ones personalities. Dark side,.me too has it… “ i am suplada” (snobbish) but only to men huh…i tend to be cruel to them…
Speaking about a person that has no regards to the other feelings and simply using these girls as bar girls,being strippers… being forced or not is a person that has a dark personalities and most those bar girls take part of this association. For what reason those girls accepted the profession ? We can relate many backgrounds of them and of their life’s story. They didn’t have a choice? They have very strong belief !! BELIEF of what? As you told they are very nice and i would like to be friend of them. Huh though i am a sociable type,..i don’t think they become friends of mine but i could approach them for another reason.I’m so selective and i am graduated for many persons’ behaviour…haha. Of course they are entertainers and they should treat well/ kindly the guest and costumers,they seem to be friendly and kind but not all those showing you these type of conduct are all honest and can be trusted huh. We are in the world of business and to make business profitable, interest of different kinds are included. I hope you understand what i mean. Well for me ,don’t know to others…..going to the bars and to associate with them is likely an immoral act and i don’t find it enjoyble so as you,sorry.If you go in the bar just for curiousity of how’s life beyond the other wall..is another thing .I did that and i hated it, many are being amused,the place is covered with smog of smoke and lots are drunkards etc…..i don’t like that kind of environment.This is how I made ,that is you and that how other people. It’s their part of enjoying life and for survival…but IF they have a strong belief, they should not engage with that kind of job.
I consider myself fortunate too that i never had to go to that kind of job nor encounter people that could take advantage of me…or just being used by someone because i do not wanted to..but life is crazy-ride and if in case i fall into the tramp (that’s very hard to happen) even i don’t want to,sooner i find a way to escape from that hell. So i ask ,are those girls can’t do the same…can they say i quit my job or not and why? To fight poverty there are many ways, doesn’t matter with less salary for as long as it’s clean…a dignified kind of survival. THEY DON’T or DID HAVE A CHOICE? Sorry i don’t agree with that. Life is made of choices (right and wrong) and we are the master of our lives. It is not they don’t have a choice,THEY LACK INITIATIVES
I recognize..we are all imperfect with different personalities and likes/dislikes differ from one another. There is only one thing that makes us human being similar..All we want a BETTER LIFE and wanting that better life,many lead into the dark world of instant money-making which can be considered the most convenient than following a clean way of living with sacfrices to show we really possess that kind of STRONG BELIEF. My personalities are not fit to the kind of survival they are doing,i prefer to beg money on the street, i never wanted to ruin my reputation because for me a GOOD REPUTATION IS PRICELESS. Besides i have no face to face that kind of job…hahaha.I believe that any one of us is blessed/gifted of its own qualities and many of us inherit the spirit of darkness. I accept differences (me too is different,I’m not holy) but in my own eyes i don’t approve the kind of job they have,so I prefer to avoid such kind of bars and seeing my co-pinays in their pitiful situation.Besides i believe to the saying “ Tell me who are your friends and i tell you who you are.”
Now since we are in the public forum in the World Of Filipinas and many here agree that those pinays having that kind of job is because THEY DON”T HAVE A CHOICE…they are very nice ladies and have VERY STRONG BELIEF, so I am INVITING those foreign men who are seeking for future Filipina wives to go in the bars where ladies are working as bar girls/strippers because they don’t have a choice,surely they are not pakipot pinays and they surely don’t hesitate to say YES to come with you. So guys don’t waste time chatting many hours with those pinays online,just go in the bars and you can find the girl of your dream. Try to save other pinays life away from poverty and they could own a dept of gratitude to you. Sounds great and seems to be a good invitation?
With my sincerity and no intention to hurt/offend anybody I say thanks to your sincerity too with this motto "Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans."
Edited by melody, 14 April 2013 - 07:14 PM.